The 3 Domains of Love is a Map. It maps the experiential distinction at work when navigating the territory of Love.

A Map is useful in order to find your 'X': in which domain of Love you just navigated yourself and your partner/Teammates/children/gameworld. Without an accurate 'X' on the Map, you are lost. You might know where your Treasure is (what you want), but if you do not have a crystal clear experience of where you are, how do you expect to get from where you are to where you want to be? Where is your blue dot?

Patriarchal relating belongs to the Ordinary Domain of Love. It is dead-childish-Gremlin contaminated Love.

The man says: "I want the freedom to do whatever I want. And when I want, I want my partner to be there for me. She cannot have an opinion about what I want, or about what I do with my time. It is my time after all. I do what I want to do (even if that includes flirting, exchanging sexual energy, having sex with other people). I have needs! I hate when she tries to control me."

The woman says: "I want control. I want my partner to only be with me, only have sex with me, only love me. I hate him when he lies, because I know he lies. He flirts with other woman, I know it."

These are both ordinary love offers from uninitiated adolescent 'man' and 'woman' whose only model are their parents, their friends' parents and television.

Some people come together for the sole purpose to ensure that their Gremlin have an ongoing source of tasty food: their partner.

It is almost always the case that both partners in the relationship have the same purpose of feeding their Gremlin on each other through:
* make assumptions, expectations about your partner and holding on to resentment when they did not fulfill your expectation,
* belittling your partner in public: correcting them or interrupting them when they are 'wrong'
* creating intrigue in your relationship by involving other people in your space of relating,
* being adaptive to your partner's needs that you are not even there to relate to and hate them for not taking care of you the way you 'take care' of them

* thinking that Low Drama is intimacy, being a Dramaholic

* thinking that Gremlin Violence is intimacy

* thinking that being betrayed and blaming your partner for their betrayal is intimacy

* thinking that you know your partner better than they know themselves, direspecting their choice, or making choices for them

* pig making

* slave making
* thinking that ensmeshment and co-dependency is intimacy (just like in the movies, eh?)

* and the other 122 ways of creating Ordinary Relationship

Gremlin feeding frenzy in relating is so 'alive' to the Box and Gremlin. It is so real and true. "We fight because we love each other."
Fight-and-Fuck relationship are a typical example of Gremlin feeding frenzy relating strategy.

There is so many Emotional Healing Processes